“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.” (Qur’an 17:23)
Taken from the article below:
One thing we all notice as our parents age is the change in their character. As we become more independent, they may become demanding, forgetful, irritable, and stubborn. Because of this change in character, Allah (swt) reminds us that especially during this time we have to show the utmost kindness and respect to them.
A reminder to myself first and foremost.
As anyone who has lived with their parents for a long time can agree *(not all, but a lot), there will be differences in opinion and we can get impatient with our parents. A lot of times, it’s actions that speaks volumes. We may not say ‘uff’ loudly but the actions say the same thing.
But as my brothers say – ‘kaki di bawah tapak kaki ibu’. And all the things, the effort, the lack of sleep etc etc that I’m doing for Zayan right now, my parents have done it a hundred thousand times more for me.
*I think it feels worse when you’ve lived away from parents for a long time and then go back to living with them. You feel your freedom is restricted and what was once solely your decision became theirs once again. —- Not that this is happening to me currently (parents ku pulang banyak bejalan now) but just saying what friends have been experiencing.